Step 1: Check Your Motives

Are you looking for a person, or a “type”? Fetishization is the fastest way to ruin a potential connection. Treat them as an individual first, not a representative of their race.

Step 2: Expand Your Circle

You won’t meet diverse people if you stay in a homogeneous bubble.

• Go to cultural festivals.
• Volunteer in diverse neighborhoods.
• Travel.

Step 3: Be Willing to Learn

You will make mistakes. You might say something ignorant by accident. The key is to listen when corrected, apologize, and learn. Don’t get defensive. Curiosity and humility are sexy.